If you’ve never been called racist/transphobic/ableist/homophobic before, it’s not because you aren’t.
It’s because you’ve surrounded yourself with people who don’t call you out when you do problematic things.
Which probably means you’re kinda-pretty bigoted.
"If your friends aren’t calling you a racist then you’re still probably a racist."
At this point, if I’m called those things, I’m very pleased because I know I must be doing something right.